Comments on The Blue Ridge Gal: Not So Alone

You are so right. As someone that has been on both...

2009-12-11T17:13:21.230-05:00

You are so right. As someone that has been on both sides I understand the frustration on both sides. It's a sad place to be when your stuck down in the pits and can't seem to see beyond it.

No divorce here, Di, but death is a different kind...

2009-12-11T13:42:56.372-05:00

No divorce here, Di, but death is a different kind of devastation. Perhaps not rejection, but it is a place we cannot go and are unwanted. I wallowed for four years and my children thought it was permanent. Yesterday it was 12 years since his stroke. The fifteenth of December will mark the 12th anniversary of his death. I am not over him. But you know that already. I just don't go there in my mind.
Soon it became obvious to me that my friends were backing off. They didn't know what to do with one that could not go forward and I couldn't. Sadness was the only company I had.
And then I met a nice man, and he wanted me. Not one I "fell in love" with, but one I admired and knew I could learn to love. And I did. Once again, I lost him to cancer..but it was different this time. I moved forward very soon..within a year.
Yes, I've known someone like that.
Others also, who pride themselves on being faithful to the "memory."
Pat would have been disappointed in me had I "wallowed" as you so beautifully put it!
Great post, Di! But then all of yours are! :)
Many hugs to you, Sweetie!
Mona

Been there. Done that. Great post. I remember my f...

2009-12-11T08:45:48.503-05:00

Been there. Done that. Great post. I remember my first Christmas when my girls went to their dad's and I sat alone looking at the lights blinking on the tree wondering if I would ever be happy again.
It's a difficult road with many bumps along the way, but it can be done.

Have known a few..... Great post.... Enjoy.....L...

2009-12-11T08:34:08.143-05:00

Have known a few.....

Great post....

Enjoy.....LindaMay